WHY KEEP SOMETHING SO BEAUTIFUL HIDDEN?

Marianne Mencias | February 15, 2020


Why Keep Something So Beautiful Hidden

My parents are RCI MEMBERS, which gives us perks to stay in beautiful places for free. Well, the membership was paid for. Just like how God wants us to freely enjoy life as His children because He has already paid the price for us to live life to the full.

All Girl Trip To Danang

Anyway, we went to an all-girl trip to Danang. There were six of us, but they call us “sic people” there (LOL) because of how they pronounce words in Vietnam. We stayed in Park Regis which has only been opened nine months ago. Oh, boy! It was so bright, beautiful, and spacious! They also have their own private beach! But what stood out is how the place hardly had guests.

Like We Own It

It’s like we own it. Of course, I am happy about it. But being the reflective person that I am *wink*, I gazed at the long stretch of the pool, colorful chairs and playgrounds, pleasant and cool pool bar and thought it was a shame to be all empty. It’s not being thoroughly enjoyed. I can’t help but connect it to people who have so much in them – so much talent, so much potential and yet choose to live small and keep it all to themselves.

I am sure that when they created Park Regis with about 200+ rooms, they didn’t think of just a group of 6 people staying there. Think about this. When God thought you up, He didn’t just create you for small things to bless only a few number of people, limited to your family and friends. He made you to bless the world. He had so many people in mind to be blessed by your gifts, by your spirit, by your heart, by all the creativity within you.

I Guess

I guess, all I’m saying is that I think we should ponder more on all that God entrusted us with and have an honest talk with ourselves: am I being a good steward of all that God placed within me? Or am I being selfish with them, prioritizing fear over loving people with what God gave me? What else do I feel in my heart God wants me to pursue to expand and grow the gifts He has so graciously endowed me with? What are my next 3 steps? Who do I need to talk to and partner with? What can I do this week? What can I do today? Who can be my accountability partner?

If I don’t know my gifts yet, what books can I read? What podcasts, youtube videos can I watch that can help me? Who among my closest friends/family can I ask about what they see in me?

God sees so much more in you than what you see in yourself.

I love this quote from one of Wayne Dyer’s books:

Trust yourself. Because trusting in yourself means trusting in the Wisdom that created you.

This 2020, soar high my friend, embrace the process of becoming, of blooming, even the pains that come with it and surrender to the extravagant love that will carry you through and mold you into everything He thought you up to be!

P.S In all fairness, guests started to trickle in as the weekend arrived, but the analogy still stands 😉

P.P.S

Please see my calendar for events to find out what’s cooking for this first semester. I’ve Strengths for Couples on Feb 29 and Upcoming Marvel and Momentum on April and May respectively. Please click this link.

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WHEN YOU ARRIVE, IT’LL BE READY.

Marianne Mencias | February 8, 2020


God is always depositing truths in our hearts, and the devil is also working double time to deposit lie after lie. What are the usual lies that we believe? You are not worth it. You’ve seen your best days. You’ve gone too far; there’s no turning back now. God doesn’t love you; He doesn’t care. Your future is bleak and dark. There are no more Godly men out there. But what is the TRUTH?

You are God’s Masterpiece. He has plans to prosper you, to fill your future with hope. If it is your vocation to marry, then He has the very best one prepared and reserved for you. You are so worth it. You are loved and cherished; He doesn’t look at your mistakes. He looks at you and knows you will overcome, as long as you open your heart to His love. He has written and customized a grand, beautiful story for your life.

As a single woman, there were many times I felt discouraged, and it came from different channels – whether it’s from my own mind, from people around me who didn’t mean any harm but still hurt me, or from past wounds. But God has always been faithful. He always shows up at the right, perfect time. One thing that He keeps telling me is “when you arrive, it’ll be ready.”

I was in Danang Vietnam more than a year ago to visit the Hand of God, only to find out this year when I went back, that during the time we went in 2018, it has only been around for four months. I’m so KILIG (giddy) over the fact that God sent me there during a time when there weren’t a lot of people yet. It’s like we enjoyed the place all to ourselves. When I went back this year, it was filled with tourists already!

 

Hand Of God 2018

Hand of God 2018

 

Hand Of God 2020

Hand of God 2020

 

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Hand of God 2018

 

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Hand of God 2020

 

It’s Like God Said

But God had a different gift for me this year. I love cafes even if I don’t drink coffee, simply because of the vibe and I love reading in them. And so, I was crushing over a café we passed by called “The Books Garden Café”. From the moment I saw it, I knew I had to visit! It felt like “customized for Maan.”

When we finally had some spare time, I asked the group if it’s okay that I don’t go shopping with them because I really wanted to go to the café, not knowing how I’d exactly find it. After walking for about 15 minutes, I found it! I enjoyed my time there, overlooking the bay, reading a book, planning my year, and you know what I found? They opened the café only a week ago!

It’s like God said, “My Daughter is arriving, and she will love this! Make sure it’s up and ready when she comes, I know it’ll make her so happy to see this!!!” And to think of all the million other things that had to happen to make it possible for me to see that café and to actually experience it.

God Is A Loving Father

God is a Loving Father who is the Creator of Time, and if He can delight me in the simplest of things, how much more in the things my heart desires most?

My prayer this year is to live in freedom and courage, knowing I have the most powerful God backing me up and loving me all the way!

Single girls, just let God keep working on you and know that in His best time when you arrive and finally see the dream, it’ll be ready for you as well.

 

P.S

Happy Valentines Day Girls! Hope to see you in my all single women event on Feb 25. Please click here for details: https://mariannemencias.com/upcoming-events/

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Feeling like a QUEEN in QUEENSTOWN, NZ.

Marianne Mencias | January 22, 2020


Last January 2019, I attended Bro. Bo’s Truly Rich Club Quarterly Gathering and there was a part in our session where he showed us a website where you can get your word for the year. (search for yours: wordoftheyear.me) He led us into prayer, invoked the power of the Holy Spirit, and then we all clicked on the button where our random word for the year appeared.

You know what came out for me?! FLY. FLY!!! Later that day, I got the chance to chat with Bro. Bo. When I told him what my word was, he said: “Wow. We can already see fruits in your life but you ain’t seen nothing yet!” My heart brimmed with excitement for the year that will be.

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Looking back now at the year that was, FLY truly has become my word last year. I couldn’t believe it was in 2019 that I got to experience one of my ultimate dream destinations: New Zealand. I am a CERTIFIED NATURE LOVER.

I really want to honor my parents for their gigantic generous hearts for giving me a plane ticket to NZ as their birthday surprise!

I know it is a huge privilege to be there, but at the same time, I feel a sense of responsibility to share the beauty and grandeur that I’ve experienced there, not just as a gift from my parents, but straight from the heart of God because you might pick up a thing or two from it, more so, if you plan to go to Queenstown, NZ (or maybe this post will convince you to, *wink wink*)

The flight my mom booked for me was for Auckland. However, when I did my research, even people from Auckland say QT is way nicer. Thus, we booked a flight from Auckland to QT, which was just an hour and a half.

On the day of my trip, mom woke up early to bring me to the airport. See my excited face? Thank you, Mom, for the prettiest luggages!

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(Giddy Girl)

I knew my trip would be amazing because of how it started: the beautiful girl in the PAL check-in counter made sure I’ve a window seat and made my bag a priority!

I am grateful to my friend from way back and first Kiwi friend, who accommodated me in Auckland and took me around for a tour before my early flight to QT!

And so the QT ADVENTURE BEGINS…

As the plane descended, my jaw dropped because of the surrounding scenery. See for yourself.

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Being the matanong girl (the girl who always asks questions), upon getting my luggage, I went to the information center and asked how to best get to my hotel: Jucy Snooze. They told me to ride the bus because it was just a few minutes walk away from the bus stop.

After about ten minutes, the bus arrived, and up I go with my two blush colored luggages, which I danced and swayed with during the 15-minute bus ride. I didn’t mind at all because of the view: lakes, mountains, flowers. Ahhhhhhh. Have I been transported to heaven?

The bus stop was about 5 minutes walk to Jucy Snooze and I was so delighted upon arriving at my hotel. It was so adorable!!! It was mostly purple but with a whole lot of different colors.

I felt that I couldn’t have chosen a much BETTER PLACE to stay in! It was right smack at the center and my ideal kind of café was on its top floor (4th floor). And the energy was so vibrant!

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So, here’s the backstory of how I found Jucy Snooze or how it actually found me. I’ve been looking for a place to stay but Jucy Snooze never came up. THANK GOD for my friend Hani, who asked another friend for recommendations about where to stay.

You see, Hani is a good friend of mine from Sydney who always has the best EVUUUURR recommendations!!! It’s like God gave me a dear friend who just knew my heart’s desires in terms of places to see and things to try. I got this revelation when she recommended places for me when I went to Sydney, and all of it became my top favorites! IMAGINE, just IMAGINE my utmost delight when I found out accidentally that she was in Queenstown exactly a month before my scheduled trip! She wasn’t even posting about it, we were just planning to talk over Viber and one time, I felt led to call her, only to find out she was currently in Queenstown. She had no idea I was going. Talk about God’s perfect orchestration!

Back to my trip, after checking in my luggages, I decided to step out and find a good place to have lunch in. I decided to try one of those on my list that Hani recommended: Be Spoke Kitchen. It was about a 5 minute walk away from Jucy Snooze and boy was it packed! I ordered what Hani ordered hahaha and wasn’t disappointed: raspberry cheesecake and chia pudding. It was good! But the ones beside me ate Eggs Benedict with bacon. Next time, next time!!!

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(clueless with what’s about to happen)

I sat beside the communal tables outside, overlooking the beautiful view, in one of those elevated tables and chairs. And then the unthinkable happened. I nonchalantly opened my water bottle and was shocked with my seatmates that it was actually sparkling water! It did a major splash all around me! Wow! Not bad for my welcome experience in Queenstown! I guess, God must’ve been saying “IT WILL REALLY WILL BE A CELEBRATION HERE, CHILD!” It’s a good thing the guys beside me just laughed their hearts out. WHEW.

After my first eventful meal, I went back to Jucy Snooze to check-in. For my first two nights, I booked myself in the capsule beds in a mixed room, well, first for the experience, and of course the affordability (about P1k+ per night)! And I tell you, it was really QUITE an experience.

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I was booked on the yellow floor (because they’ve assigned colors per floor and you’ll follow this colored line on the wall which leads to your room) The moment I entered our room, I was flabbergasted because it was like a jungle! There were about 4 guys, a girl, and there were clothes all around. I checked the sheets on my bed and noticed it wasn’t that clean. The guy (Hello Pedro!) in the counter was super nice so he just didn’t just give me a clean sheet,  he assigned me to a totally new room with fewer capsule beds.

Once settled, I took a quick nap because I hardly slept the night before at Auckland. After about 2 hours of sleep, I headed to St. Joseph where I planned to hear anticipated mass (this was a Saturday!) because I won’t be able to go the following day. It was an uphill climb going to church (which actually seemed endless), pretty much how it feels sometimes being still single hahaha! There were times I felt “am I going the right direction? Will all this hard work be worth it?” But when I finally saw the church, my heart rested with glee!

The mass is not until 6:30 PM but I got there 6:15 PM. There were two women talking about mass readers. It was just the 3 of us inside the church. Again, I felt led to volunteer if they needed an extra reader (since I really am a lector!) Guess what, I did get assigned to be the reader in the mass! When I saw the Responsorial Psalm, my heart just wanted to burst, the verse was something God spoke so strongly to me two years prior:

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This was during a time I was dating someone who I didn’t have complete peace and joy with. God knew what was going on in my heart and reassured me with this verse. Who would have thought, 2 days before my birthday, I will be reading during mass in my dream destination, thousands of miles away from home, with God speaking so clearly to my heart- at St. Joseph church! Huhuhu! But it didn’t end there. Before our procession, I saw a super cute little girl at the back of the church with her parents and I couldn’t help but approach her. The very moment I held her in my arms, she immediately planted a kiss on my cheek.

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As the mass was about to end, the priest (who happened to be Filipino!) asked who’s celebrating their birthday the following week. Guess what? It was only me. And so the whole church (about a hundred of them) prayed over me and sang happy birthday for me. Then a cute little boy approached me with a basket of chocolates. Oh God. How much you love me.

One of the little girls, who served with me during mass, was with her brother and dad and they asked if I have plans for the night. They volunteered to take me around if I didn’t. And so, off we went to one of the places on my list: Arrowtown! The little girl became my tour guide, her name is Elai and she’s very smart! We ended the night with churros and pizza, all their treat just because it’s my birthday daw! I feel like God sends me family everywhere.

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The next day was Sunday which I scheduled specifically for adventures around Queenstown. Sadly, the weather didn’t cooperate so my hang gliding was canceled. But something legendary happened instead.  Because I suddenly have free time, I went to Lucys Café (4th floor of our hotel) for some hot chocolate but was pleasantly surprised with the buffet of cereals ready for the taking. I thought to myself: “Wow, this hotel is generous! They even have this!” So I helped myself with a bowl of 2 kinds of cereals and found the perfect place to sit. A few minutes later, the waiter approached me with my hot chocolate and I found myself dumbfounded with her question: “Are you a part of the Contiki Tours?” Now, all the signs around me made more sense. I saw it but it didn’t really sink in. The buffet of cereals and where I was sitting was all reserved for those who are joining the tour! Bravo, Marianne, Bravo!!! I chose another spot, and yes, still finished my cereal. They can’t do anything with it anymore so might as well finish it, right? I still have some pride left because at least I ordered the hot chocolate. After a little while, I video chatted with my mom and we died laughing as I retold the story of cereals. (while still in the café)

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(hilarious call with mom)

Anyway, I got a call that my hang gliding is finally pushing through at 1 pm! Whoop dee doo! Off I went and met our tour guide who brought us to where we’ll pick up the Hang gliders and our instructors! I was nervous and excited at the same time. On our way to the top of the mountain, the song that was playing on the radio was “Nervous”. Hahaha, isn’t God the cutest?!

They started setting up, then my instructor Andrea (he’s the best! Yes HE is!) began giving me instructions. Then it was finally time to fly. It was like being attached to a big kite and you’re flying like superman. Well, in my case, superwoman. Andrea did some tricks on air. It was phenomenal! Oh, I’m so grateful that out of all the adventures I could have chosen, I picked this. (I hope I can say the same for my future hubby!)

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After THE BEST RIDE EVER, I went to try the FAMOUS FERBERGER, and boy was it HUGE and SO DELICIOUS. It was also a delightful surprise to see people from my church community in Queenstown. I felt even safer!

You want to know another surprise?!?! After Fergberger, I went back to my hotel. I thought nobody will be there since it’s the middle of the day, but the guy staying across my capsule bed was there, fixing his stuff. We began talking and he suddenly asked: “Weren’t you the reader in the church last night? Happy Birthday!” Whoa, whoa, whoa! He was there? At the church, too? It could have been the most beautiful love story ever, but I had zero attraction. That same night, all our other 6 companions left, I was left with him in our room. I did feel a bit of discomfort, but what helped me get through is knowing he was there, at the church. How God constantly reassures right?

Anyway, that same day was my schedule for GONDOLA and 5 LUGE rides. I went up and down slopes while I played music on my phone and enjoyed the spectacular views of lakes and mountains. By the way, when you do the luge, make sure you try both tracks. I liked track 2 more because it’s more challenging haha!

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By the way, there was this guy who followed me through the slopes and kept asking questions. He rode the gondola with me together with this other guy who’s much older than him. He took pics of me at the luge and we exchanged numbers so he can send them. Shortly after, I found out he was married and the guy with him was his father in law!!! He sent me pics later that day and said I was gorgeous, he also asked what my plans are for the night. Seriously, guys!???! I said thank you for the picture and compliment and didn’t reply anymore. See how the devil tries to come in and ruin every beautiful thing God is doing?

After all the rides, I decided it was time to try the famous PATAGONIA Chocolate Shop. I got myself one scoop of ice cream, I got one that wasn’t the usual flavor, and it was so dang good.  It was too cold outside but I wanted to enjoy the views, I wondered what was on the 2nd floor of Patagonia because they were almost closing. I’m happy that I, Dora the Explorer, found the perfect spot to sit on the 2nd floor – a couch in front of a big window overlooking the lake.

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A young Indian couple was right beside me and they both have a book with them. What an ideal date right?! Huhu, jealous. LOL Anyway, we started conversing and sharing about our trip so far and they mentioned they’re going to Wanaka next. My friend Hani mentioned Wanaka to me as well and I felt honestly led to go there. They mentioned a yummy crepe place and that got me even more excited.

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The following day was my birthday!!! I went to mass and confession first and met with 2 Pinay new friends. We didn’t have actual plans, we just wanted to meet up before they leave for their 4-day hike, and so we just did a nice photo op by the lake.

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(ikaw na ba si mister right?! Hahaha just noticed now there’s a guy in the pic)

We had to separate ways immediately after because they have limited time. I deemed it was the perfect time to have my quiet walk in Queenstown Gardens. To me, it was a sacred walk where I just kept recounting all the beautiful things God has done and is doing in my life. Thanks for teaching me the gratitude walk, Sha Nacino!! There were literally times I teared up. 🙂

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After my walk, I went back to the hotel because I will be transferring rooms! I really gave myself the birthday gift of moving to a solo room and, lo and behold, the guy in the counter (his name is Josh and he just celebrated his birthday, too) gave me the very best room in the house!!! It was overlooking the lake. Cry cry. Thank You, Lord!!!

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And then, I prepared for my half-day afternoon tour which was Glenorchy + Paradise. I brought my small pillow with me, which was a great decision because I got to take so many naps along the way. We enjoyed all the beautiful scenery, took a lot of photos, and I also met a new girlfriend there.

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I got back to the hotel and enjoyed all the calls and birthday greetings of people way back home.

That evening, met up with my new friend Ali and had a nice dinner at Flame Grill, where we were given the best spot where we could see the lake at night and all the lights. In terms of food, I highly recommend their seafood chowder! We ordered half ribs, though it was too big for us, we should have just ordered the quarter-sized one.

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The day after my birthday was free day and so I thought that it was the best time to go to Wanaka! I woke up early and went to ride the bus going to the airport, hoping to catch the first bus going to Wanaka from there, only to find out I got the times mixed up. But instead of endless complaining, I went to the grocery store instead, bought pasalubong chocolates and got myself kiwi fruits (please get the brand with the gold, it’s much sweeter and tastier!) I enjoyed my room view while eating kiwi.

I got to the next shuttle going to Wanaka, without knowing God has a surprise for me waiting. Last to board was a Filipino couple who sat right in front of me. We started talking and they offered to take me around beautiful Wanaka because they had a car with them plus free time!!! Huhuhu!

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I got to try the Charlie Brown Crepe the Indian couple recommended. The Filipino couple then showed me this other beautiful lake where Oprah’s “Wrinkle in Time” film was shot. They also brought me to Lavander Farm and gave me time to walk around Wanaka Lake to see the Insta-famous Wanaka tree and even took pictures of me at Puzzling World. It was so perfect. It was more than what I’ve planned to see. Main takeaway: when our plans don’t go our way, trust that a much better plan is on its way.

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Back in Main Queenstown at around 5 PM, I got to try Erik’s Fish and Chips while sitting on the bench fronting the lake. I turned in early because the next day was set for MILFORD SOUND, which was 3 hours away from Queenstown and our call time was at 7 AM. When you book tours, make sure you know beforehand the meeting place and meeting time. I’m lucky because my hotel is just a few steps away from the meetup venues.

Milford Sound was beautiful!!! It wasn’t the perfect weather though. I’m so happy I also purchased the buffet on the cruise because the food was very good!!! There was rice!!! See my plate. I finished all that.

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I also loved that I was with a big, big Filipino group and I had so much fun with them plus felt even more protected having them around with me. I met Ate Lorlyn, too, who immediately felt like a big sister to me.

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At night, I met with my friend again who I met at Glenorchy tour + her other friend. We went to Below Zero Ice Bar for free. My friend had free tickets! You know what’s even mind blowing? The song they were playing when we entered was “God Blessed the Broken Road” by Rascal Flatts! We only got to stay for 15 minutes, actually, I still kept going out because I can’t stand the cold.

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On my last day (WAHHHHH), I set the alarm at 7AM but woke up at 5AM. When I realized it was indeed my last day, I cried for a good 30minutes. SEPANX FOR REALS. I went to the café, ate pancake and bacon while enjoying the view, then I headed to the famous ONSEN HOT POOLS. I couldn’t think of a better way to cap my trip than this. I will let the picture speak for itself.

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My heart was just worshipping the Lord. You know, before leaving Manila, I went to the chapel in Trinoma Mall (which was so beautiful, see pic) and consecrated my trip to God, and little did I know, it was the most perfect trip I could ever have.

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After the ONSEN relaxation time (where I overextended because I thought there was a shuttle every 15 minutes, yikes), I went back to the hotel, checked out, did last-minute shopping, and ate lunch at TACO MEDIC. This was just recommended to me in passing, by I don’t know who anymore, and I just happened to see it because it was right beside Zero Ice Bar. And can I just tell you? The soft taco is the best I’ve ever tasted. I wanted to go back and order the fish (I ordered chicken) but due to lack of time, I just put it on my “next time” list.

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I got to the airport early and still had time to try Patagonia’s hot chocolate which was also a winner.

I effortlessly had a window seat flying back to Auckland which was the cry of my heart. And again, I found my eyes filled with tears as we took off leaving Paradise.

God did make me feel a Queen in Queenstown.

I was picked up my mom and dad (so sweet) at the airport and we had tuyo and tomatoes for breakfast. No other best way to comfort me. Hahaha.

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If I’ll do it all over again, I would stay longer. I think 2 weeks is best. I would go see the Southern Lights, walk around Arrowtown try the restaurant there, see the glowworm and just enjoy the scenery more without having to rush at all.

People kept asking was it a DIY trip and I wanted to say them it’s a DIG (Do it with God) trip!

You know, this verse became even more real to me because of my New Zealand trip: “God’s will is good, pleasing, and perfect.”

 

P.S.

The weather was perfect: cold but sunny still. Layers of clothes are highly recommended (this was November).

Airfare will be around 45K (maybe even cheaper)

Accommodations around 25K (2 nights capsule, 3 nights solo room)

Tours around 20k

Pocket money of 30k

=120K

 

GO-TO LINK FOR TOUR PROMOS, etc:

https://www.bookme.co.nz

 

MUST TRY FOOD PLACES:

Taco Medic

Fergberger

Patagonia

Be Spoke Kitchen

 

Some wisdom for your pocket:

Always ask to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s leading

Pray to be mindful (I prayed this at the start of my trip because I kept leaving stuff)

Have fun with God, wake up every day with an expectant heart knowing He has a surprise waiting for you.

One last thing, I tried declaring once in the luge: this will be my last trip just you and me God, next time I’ll be with someone special already! But I just couldn’t say it, hahaha. That’s how I knew how much I’m enjoying dates with God, I just can’t find myself letting it go just yet.  Not until He says, It’s time!!! <3 <3 <3

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TOP 10 LESSONS IN THE PAST DECADE

Marianne Mencias | January 15, 2020


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Can you believe it? It has been a decade and we are experiencing the beginning of a new one!  And so, I got inspired (as always) by Emily Wilson (Youtuber) on jotting down our most significant experiences/lessons the past decade.

Here are mine! 🙂

 

  1. Obeying God is loving yourself best

I did have a relationship with God but it was only in 2011 when I started giving Him Lordship over my life, especially my love life. There were many times I was led to say no to a potential relationship, put God first before my feelings, and as hard as it was for my hopeless romantic heart, I realized in the end (after finding out eventually why God led me to say no), He was only after my protection and peace.

 

  1. Worrying is a complete waste of time.

One of my top 5 talents in Strengths Finder is Futuristic and as I’ve learned as a coach, our talents are not always helpful, they can even hinder us from accomplishing our goals if we are not mindful. Because of my futuristic talent, I can spend a lot of time worrying about what’s going to happen next and the problems that may come with it. I now learned (still a work in progress) that instead of worrying, I should always remind myself that God will always light my path and the grace I will need for the next moment will always be available at the exact right moment.

 

  1. Purity is the start of clarity

I made a lot of mistakes in my past that I am not proud of, but when I started confessing my sins and walking in the light, my purpose became so clear to me. When things are in the dark, it’s much, much harder to see what they are for. But when you bring them to the light, it’s much, much easier to see what they are for. 

 

  1. God delights in giving us the very best!

Just like everyone else, I have silly, small, superficial dreams and big ones. And I’ve seen God’s faithfulness in both. He truly grants the desires of our hearts. Mine is having my dream mentors as my actual mentors, or speaking in companies which I couldn’t believe I would speak at, or seeing my dream destinations. God owns it all so He is more than capable of exceeding your wildest imagination. (and may I add, as long as it is good for you)

 

  1. You will not regret putting people first.

There were many times I wasn’t fully present in my relationships because I was “busy” with my purpose. But God always made it clear to me that love should always come first. And that’s the best investment of time always!

 

  1. Boundaries are important!

To put a balance in my last point, I realized it’s so important to have a list of priorities and to put your well-being at the top because when you are running out and empty, you’d be left drained and that’s not a healthy place to love. I highly recommend the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

 

  1. Master Mission Mate

God placed a deep mission in my heart for the youth and singles. Our world today is in much disorder because people prioritized the Mate, then it became Messy, then Miserable. God wants us to love Him first with our whole heart, mind, soul and strength and extend that to others. We have to experience His love first so we can be healed from childhood wounds, so that He can tell us our purpose and that’s the best time to choose our Mate. When two people come together knowing their value, knowing their passion and calling, have been trained by God in the department of selflessness then it works so much more! And what’s funny is my initials are also MMM and my birthday is Nov 11 which happens to be International Singles Day in China. Isn’t God the cutest?!

 

  1. It’s not about me!

In those moments I make it about me, how people will perceive me, I just get tired. But in those grace-filled moments when I ask the Lord to love through me, whether through giving a talk or just listening to another person, or asking the Holy Spirit to write through me, I am always left in awe with the results and my heart brims with joy.

 

  1. When God has already spoken clearly to you, stop consulting others for verification.

There was a time I asked God for His insight and He did answer in a matter of seconds. But instead of obeying instantly, I sought other advisers and was led to do the opposite of what God already placed in my heart. Things just got so messy. Obeying quickly is key.

 

  1. JOMO or Joy of Missing Out

There’s that feeling of significance (which can be rooted from Pride) when we want to be everywhere or be a part of everything and then we complain to God that He is overextending us. I wanna get into the habit of asking God this 2020 “Father is this important to Your heart? Is this something You want me to be involved in?” I realized His purposes will still happen with or without us and it’s a precious privilege I get to be a part of His grand plan. Knowing this, I have to constantly ask for His wisdom to know when to say yes and when to say no, so that I can invest myself fully in the things that He has really ordained for me to do.

 

Now it’s your turn! What are your significant learnings the past decade? 🙂

Happy Happy New Year!!! 

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Embracing One’s Calling

Marianne Mencias | September 9, 2019


Perhaps one of the most frustrating situations to be in is when you know your strengths and your passion but not having a clue how to pursue them. 

I had this dilemma this year.

Growing up, I only had one dream – to be a teacher. I thought I had everything planned out – from what course to take up to picturing myself teaching passionately in a classroom for the next 10, 20, even 30 years! I did end up teaching in the academe for 5 years, but eventually realized that classroom teaching was (and still is) too tiring, tedious, and demanding for me. I was still passionate about education, so I decided to venture into teaching English to Koreans online. I started off as an instructor and then, in less than a year, became a trainer. I was happy because I was still teaching. However, due to various circumstances, I resigned from that job after almost 6 years. I thought closing that chapter would also mean turning my back from teaching. 

During my first two months of being unemployed, I felt so lost. You see, I’ve wanted to pursue two passions which I’ve been putting aside for some time – calligraphy and writing. I could already envision myself having a stable career as a calligrapher who does not only make *beautiful* art works, but one who creates a story and has a specific purpose and message behind every artwork. However, I had a dilemma. I didn’t know how to start. On top of that, I had a lot of fears and insecurities – that I’m not good enough or creative enough. Whenever I’d weigh the pros and cons, I’d usually panic. Baby steps, I told myself. One art work a day. One reflection or content per day. And as I worked on these little steps, the dream that was planted in my heart started growing. Family and friends showed their support. I started receiving small projects and commissioned works. Nothing major yet, but all of them made me excited and made me want to improve on my craft. I did my best to take care of every client, of every art work. I also made sure to be consistent with my daily postings on social media, sharing about my faith, my personal struggles and triumphs, just my life journey in general. The number of likes doesn’t matter. “Just write something, Tina. It will reach someone who needs to read it.”

“What happened to teaching?” you may ask. See, here’s the funny thing. Last month, I helped out with Marianne’s workshop, “Marvel”. I’ve already heard about Gallup Strengths Finder from some of my friends way back, but I haven’t taken the test. Just before the workshop, I took the test myself, and the results made so much sense! One of my friends gave a comment after finding out what my Top 5 Strengths are — Teacher na teacher ah! It was like an arrow hit my heart! The educator inside me has and will always be there. A week after the event, I had a small calligraphy workshop. After months, I found myself standing in front of a small group of learners exploring calligraphy. Yes, I was nervous at first, but when I started teaching and speaking, it felt like home. Then, I knew, I would always be a teacher. The venue or means won’t matter; I’d always find a way to teach and impart knowledge.

So here’s the thing. WE ALL HAVE A UNIQUE SET OF TALENTS/STRENGTHS. It may be something that we’ve been doing for a long time, something that we’ve started before but we stopped doing, or even something we just discovered! The thing is, it would be such a shame if we do not put them to use. Remember, you don’t have to start with something big or grand. Start small. Trust the process. Do not put your talents to waste; God called all of us to do something, so OWN IT!

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If you are like Tina (the one who wrote the blog above)- you know your calling, passions and you have an inkling on what your purpose is- but you don’t know how to actively pursue them- then maybe #MasterpieceMovement: #Momentum workshop is for you. This is the happy happening on Sept 21, Saturday, 9-4PM, where I will help guide you in making your dreams a reality and an execution coach and expert will also be there to help crystallise your plans. Let’s get rid of those fears and own our calling! Early bird discount of P2500 only until tomorrow, Sept 10. Regular rate is P3000. To save time, we are including here the bank details. Just send us a picture of your deposit slip and voila, your slot is secured!

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#LOVENOFILTER Conference with Jason Evert

Marianne Mencias | September 4, 2019


I am a huge fan of the book: How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul by Jason and Crystalina Evert. I would refer back to it every time I’d be dating someone and I know for sure that it has protected me from a lot of unnecessary pain and heartaches.

I was thrilled when I heard Jason Evert will be in the country for the #LoveNoFilter  Conference that my friends and I instantly booked tickets. I attended both the young adult and educator streams.

Let me share with you my top 3 takeaways from his talk.

  1. Dating isn’t for people who are bored and lonely. Oh gosh, I used to be this way, always needing someone to make me feel valued. Little did I know, I had a father wound that needs to be addressed by God and not another wounded boy. One of the devil’s most effective schemes is to make us fall in love with the wrong person, at the wrong time, for the wrong reasons, while we are still the wrong person. And the patterns of brokenness often just get repeated from one generation to the next. Thank God He saved me and led me to His truths. So many of us need to let God re-parent us so we can begin to see ourselves in a healthy way and only allow another healthy person into our lives.

 

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  1. What you win a man over with is what you’ll need to keep him with. A lot of women didn’t receive masculine approval in their homes, so when they finally get the attention they seek, they grapple and hold on to it like a leech. I remember allowing myself to get into pseudo-relationships with someone I am physically attracted to. I didn’t think much about values then and instead of increasing my self worth, I felt even more diminished. There are far too many women today who allow themselves to be treated as objects by posting half naked pictures of themselves and wonder why they attract jerks – boys who see women as objects of pleasure and not a person with a heart to be known and loved. The sad thing is, when the passion dissipates, that boy goes looking for another object. Let God love you first so you know how worthy you are and you stop wasting your time.

 

  1. You can fire a person when they’re not qualified. In trying to get a job, people go through a rigorous application process. And how long does that job last? But when it comes to marriage, people no longer hold themselves to high standards so no wonder it becomes short-term. Jason said one of the ways to know the character of the person you’re dating is to check out the values of the people he often hangs out with. Another way of knowing is by asking yourself relevant questions e.g. if someday you end up marrying him, will you be happy when your daughters end up marrying someone like him? Will you be happy when your sons end up becoming like him? When I asked myself these questions when I was dating someone, it was clear as daylight, he wasn’t the one. The best way to not get blinded is to remain pure. Wise up women, do it for your future selves and future children. Actually, you’re doing it for guys too, for when women no longer tolerate bad behavior, maybe boys will finally man up.

 

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2 CLUES TO CALLING

Marianne Mencias | August 11, 2019


So many people are bored today. If they’re not bored, they disdain their work. I don’t think we are created to hate life. I believe that “Jesus came so that we may have life, and have it to the full, until it overflows.” (John 10:10)

Let’s backtrack a bit. My first work was in a pharmaceutical company, organizing events for medical practitioners. I really love the traveling part, but the rest not so much because of all the nosebleeds I got from studying all the medical terms!

After 3 years of working there, my bosses noticed I was getting restless. And thus, I had the chance to be cross-posted, this time in Marketing!

Boy oh boy was it exciting! However, I found myself working long hours, and once even during a family vacation. And in my heart of hearts, I knew I was shaped for something else. Anyway, the full story of my journey is found in my book – “What’s Your Life’s Masterpiece?” 

Eventually, it was confirmed that what I truly loved doing was teaching and talking about the deeper meaning of life. Hence, I resigned and did just that. Fast forward, I’ve written 2 books that sold by the thousands and I’ve spoken in front of thousands.

The path towards discovering and answering my calling was not an easy one. But there are clues that helped me while on the path to self-discovery. Let me share with you 2 clues that you are actually doing your calling:

  • You no longer ask.

I remember a time I opened my heart to my brother about my ex-boyfriend. I was asking him if he was “the one”. He answered “the mere fact that you are still asking…” I realized that it’s the same with our life’s calling – when you know, you know. No questions.

  • Passion and Excitement

Our Heavenly Father is one passionate Being. Just look at how many flowers are there! I know for a fact that He is all about filling our hearts with gladness! What more in what He has shaped us to do!

We will talk about this, and more, in my upcoming public workshops under the Masterpiece Series.

The first workshop, Marvel, is happening on Aug 24, 2-6PM, QC. This is for people who are still searching for their calling. This includes Strengths Finder Assessment. We offer lower fees for those who have already taken the test. This workshop is only Php 3,500 but we offer an early bird rate of Php 3,000 until August 15 (Thursday) only. We also offer group discounts!

The other workshop, Momentum will be on Sept 21 in Ortigas, 9-4PM. This is for people who already know their purpose but need help in organizing their action steps. This whole day event is only Php 3,000 with an early bird rate of Php 2,500 until August 31 (Saturday). The pre-requisite for this is Strengths Finder Top 5 Talents Result. You can purchase a code from us if you wish.

If you want to attend both workshops, you only need to pay Php 5,000 only until August 15 as well. Send us an email us if you have questions: unlockthemasterpiece@gmail.com

If you’re a go, just kindly send the deposit slip to unlockthemasterpiece@gmail.com

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THE SECRET TO WAITING WELL

It was my second time at Canada’s Wonderland, and as my cousins commented about this amusement park, “they’re getting wiser” because they now have stamps that people cannot use for another person’s entrance (lol), as well as barbed wires so people can’t easily enter. Personally, I think that a theme park is “wise” when it always makes it a point to introduce new experiences and rides to returning guests, to keep them coming back for more.

We excitedly went there on a Sunday and the first ride we went on was, true to form, the newest one: Yukon Striker, which opened only last April. As expected with novelties, boy, was the line long! We stood in line for 1.5 hours just to get into that ride, which only lasted a few minutes.

Exhilarating? Yes! Worth the long wait? Still yes! But more than the rush this new ride offered, this turned out to be an important moment for me. This is where it dawned on me that majority of life is really in the journey. A lot of what shapes the direction of life happens in the wait. We all have dreams – wanting to get married (ehem-ehem), wanting to finish a book, wanting to reach 100k followers – but majority of our time will really be spent in the waiting room. That’s why it is crucial to enjoy and thrive in the journey. How do we do more of that?

Here is an important principle to live by: recognize your time investors and
time wasters. Time investors are activities that you know will be good for you not just in the present, but in the long haul. Time wasters are things we engage in that don’t really add value to our lives and we eventually regret doing. Why is this important to recognize? Because sometimes, when our desires take too long to manifest, we resort to unproductive activities and end up wasting away our lives.

Here’s a table to help you “number your days” or be wise in your everyday use of time. Remember, we don’t get it back and it’s the devil’s pleasure to get us distracted all the time.

The Secret To Waiting Well

I think the best antidote to time wasters is knowing your purpose. Why the heck did God put you here and why at this time?

I want to coach and help guide you in this.

I’m conducting two public workshops this August under #MasterpieceMovement Series! “Marvel” (at who God made you to be!) is a half-day session happening on August 24, which aims to help you clarify what it is you’re really passionate about. It also includes the highly-acclaimed Strengths Finder assessment and customized results so you are aware of your Top 5 Talents!

The second workshop, titled #Momentum, will be held on September 21. If you want to turn your purpose into reality through specific actionable plans, then this workshop is for you. This is a whole–day event that also includes a healing process that will free you from beliefs that are holding you back.

If you’re interested in any of these, just shoot us an email at
unlockthemasterpiece@gmail.com so we can send you more details. I also do one on one coaching, by the way!

When you know your purpose, you’ll never be bored a day in your life!

The Power of Saying NO

Marianne Mencias | June 21, 2019


“On Second Thought” The Power of Saying No to Self, Holding Back, and Making Better Decisions before we act! 

 

In a gist we have learned that processed thought is better than the impulsive thought. Joyce Meyer once said, when the thought comes from the devil, it is a temptation to sin or to be less than who we are, but when it comes from God, it is inspiration to be holier, to be more than who we are.

Anthony mentioned a book called 3 Seconds: Power of Thinking Twice by Les Parrott and I am so looking forward to devouring this book too. Basically it says it takes 3 seconds to make a wiser decision and the choices we make contribute to the overall fabric of our lives. When push comes to shove, first impulse is to say “Whatever!” but given 3 seconds, it can lead us to “Whatever it takes…”

In every moment, we either give in to fear or we choose to walk by faith.

 

6 Principles of Thinking Twice

1. Ask yourself when do you usually react? How do you react? (when you act impulsively and not think twice) How do you act by impulse?

Ex. Opening apps impulsively, browsing social media incessantly, shouting, getting angry quickly, acting out of lust, saying yes all the time to please people  (we do this for higher self awareness, to catch ourselves quickly; “what you can name, you can tame”)

When you struggle with Superman/Superwoman Syndrome/Being a Yes Man/Yes Woman:

Please remember a need doesn’t always constitute a call. Not every need should be acted upon by you. I learned from Rick Warren, if it’s not your gifting and someone else can do it better than you, let them do it. Only when there is no one else can do that important thing except you, that’s when you actually do it. Sometimes we get too tired because we do things God isn’t even asking us to do.  Pray for wisdom, pray for discernment, ask the Holy Spirit to guide you.

2. Open your life to the benefits of saying NO!

Based on study, kids who are able to say no:

  • Have more self control, are more self sufficient
  • More responsible and enjoy being good
  • More self confident
  • Their yes is a yes and their no a no
  • More successful in business
  • More consistent

Ask yourself what’re the benefits of saying NO:

Here are mine:

  • Better relationships because I am not saying an external yes with an internal no but a REAL YES coming from an overflow of love (an internal no nullifies an external yes)
  • Save time
  • Enjoy time, I am fully present in the things I say yes to
  • More self-respect
  • Better witness to Christ

 

3. Let the consequences speak for themselves

Discipline your children, for in that there is hope, do not be a willing party to their death. (Proverbs 19:18)

Children will end up unhappy and they will suffer when they’re not trained to have self-control, to say no to things that will not be good for them in the long term.

It kills me when I hear of parents who lead their own children to a sinful environment or to a sinful life by their own example. That’s why I am so passionate in ministering to single people to be whole and happy on their own first and not let the void of emptiness within them be filled with raw romantic relationships, because when they become parents, their children need them to be a good role model, to be God representatives in their lives. We will never be perfect, but there’s a certain level of maturity required to be a parent.

But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea. (Matthew 18:6)

Lack of control leads to death:

  • Damaged friendships, broken hearts, wasted lives
  • Inability to say no, Failure to hold back, Insistence of expressing here and now
  • Let’s go for decisions that have been reflected upon and prayed through.
  • Our choices can either lead us to regret or rejoice

Ask ourselves often: did I give life or was it death?

4. Don’t ever doubt you can make it happen

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control.

2 Timothy 1:7 Amplified Bible, Classic Edition (AMPC)

Have it today, lose it tomorrow if you don’t abide in God (here’s another resource that can help you: https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/what-does-it-mean-to-abide-in-christ

I advise you to obey only the Holy Spirit’s instructions. He will tell you where to go and what to do, and then you won’t always be doing the wrong things your evil nature wants you to. Galatians 5:16 (TLB)

We do it, one day at a time. Holy Spirit will give us the ability to overcome.

If there is a Free will there is a FREE WON’T

Will power vs. Won’t Power

5. Individual initiative will kill you

22 Run from anything that gives you the evil thoughts that young men often have, but stay close to anything that makes you want to do right. Have faith and love, and enjoy the companionship of those who love the Lord and have pure hearts. 2 Timothy 2:22 Living Bible (TLB)

Don’t fight temptations. Run away from temptations.

Have a NOT TO DO LIST.

The verse above is the kind of spouse singles should be looking for: Person who makes them do what is right, have Christ in their hearts and walking with others who love the Lord;  remember it is very hard to walk together if the person doesn’t have the Holy Spirit within them. You will be in opposing directions.

6. Thrive with self control in obedience and in the power of the Holy Spirit

 Jesus responded, “My time of being unveiled hasn’t yet come, but any time is a suitable opportunity for you to gain man’s approval. John 7:6 The Passion Translation (TPT)

Jesus obeyed the leading of the Holy Spirit, not the approval of man.

For the word of God is living and active and full of power [making it operative, energizing, and effective]. It is sharper than any two-edged [a] sword, penetrating as far as the division of the [b]soul and spirit [the completeness of a person], and of both joints and marrow [the deepest parts of our nature], exposing and judging the very thoughts and intentions of the heart. Hebrews 4:12 (Amplified version)

The Holy Spirit is in the word, that’s why everyday let’s take time to read the word, could be through devotionals, full tank of Bro. Bo, Gospel Readings App, pray for what will best guide you because your own brain and heart cannot discern properly

Acronym of the 6 Principles of Thinking Twice:

H.O.L.D. I.T!

How do you react?

Open your life to the benefits of saying no!

Let the consequences speak for themselves

Don’t ever doubt you can make it happen

 

Individual Initiative will kill you.

Thrive with self-control in obedience and in the Power of the Holy Spirit  

Again, I thank Anthony for being so generous with His wisdom and even feeding us with the best during bible studies. May God continue to be glorified in your life! We love you.

May God’s love, light and joy fill your heart always,

Marianne

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MOMMA FOR A NIGHT

Marianne Mencias | June 20, 2019


My sister recently gave birth to a baby girl!!! And this is quite a celebration for our family because this is the 5th child of my ate and all the ones before are BOYS!!! Trivia: all their names are Bible or Faith based and their second names are all cars. Because their dad’s name is Ford and they’re in buying and selling of cars and trucks. It’s funny because the resorts they go to really remember them, apart from the fact that they’re so adorbs and friendly too! So my nephews names are Audi, Ferrari, Bentley and Maserati. Now that they have a girl, guess what her name is? Porsche!!! <3

Anyhoo, this is the second time my sister gave birth and I was asked to look after the babiest of them all. Last time I looked after Bentley but now I am assigned Maserati or Mati. I was looking forward to it but also a bit dreading because it is the first time he is staying with me. The long night began.  

Mati had a hard time sleeping and kept crying out to Daddy and Mommy. He would fall asleep only to wake up and cry again. At one point, I almost gave up. As expected, I didn’t get any decent sleep because I’m paranoid he might not be able to breathe or his other kuya beside him might sleepkick him. So every time he’d wake up, I’ll rockabye him back to sleep and you know finally I found the secret to succeeding in this almost lost endeavor. I believe this actually relates to success in life too. I naturally think this way, pardon me.

So here goes my strategy:

  1. I sang him songs and declared what I wanted to happen: “Mati is having a great sleep. Mati will wake up smiling in the morning.” Wadoyouknow, he fell asleep to my song hallelujah and not only that, when he woke up, he was smiling and instantly playing with me!
  2. I kept praying “Lord, please give me unconditional love. Please give me unconditional love.” You see, sleep is life to me and I can get cranky if I don’t get to sleep well so I needed extra grace to be an extra loving tita during this time. I am amazed with the patience God injected in my heart, I didn’t complain or anything and God is so gracious because I was able to make up for lack of sleep the following morning. I still had a great energized day!
  3. I imagined him sound asleep. Our imagination goes a long long way guys, it is a superpower given to us by God.

So what am I trying to tell you? When you want to accomplish something, and you know you are there for the noblest of intentions, declare out loud with your words what you want to happen. God created the world by declaring “Let there be…” and He made you His child created in His image and likeness right? Therefore He gave you power to create your reality through your words. I encourage you to write your dreams in the PRESENT TENSE and read it with feelings every day! And don’t forget to add, Lord, this or better, because Your will is always THE BEST!

When you are running out of good feelings, most especially love, remember the Source of all love is right by your side so ask it from Him. Just make sure you are exercising love with wisdom.

Pareng Albert Einstein once said: Imagination is better than knowledge.” And I believe him! Our world moves forward with limitless imagination and courageous action. Imagine yourself having the best day, imagine yourself in your old age, say 96 years old, with a big fat smile on your face reminiscing a great life lived and lots and lots of people loved. Imagine meeting God and Him telling you, “I love you and I am so proud of you. Thank you for living up to the potential I placed within you. Thanks (nag thanks (shortcut) talaga si Lord?!) for bringing down heaven on earth.”

Hope this post blessed you and people you love! Keep believing and living the best that has been entrusted within you!

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